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Crazy Hot Sex

Sasha

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To my dear daughter,

As you grow, many boys will enter your years. They will speak words of love and passion, of wanting you–all of you.

Their sex will be lacking.

Believe me, dear girl, I know what crazy hot lovemaking is made of. Until the boy can assure you of the following, it is not true passion.

If he can patiently wait for over three years. From pregnant to nursing to pregnant to nursing, with your hormones fierce, and desire often dead. “Please, just let me sleep. I am so tired.” will be your common response. Until he can love you still, choose you still, it is not true passion.

If He can call you beautiful when even your feet are swollen from baby belly. Call you sexy when your legs run thick with varicose veins from the same. Call you perfect after your belly hangs loose with skin and your eyes deep with bags. Until he can still call you these things, it is not true passion.

You may throw things at him, yell words of hate and shame as you feel the hormones of post baby blues run deep. Until he can love you even deeper, piercing through the pain into your heart, it is not true passion.

He will go to work where there are other women, pretty women. Pretty women with no children and varicose free, high heeled legs. I know the way they toss their pretty little hair to and fro.

He will come home to you, your hair pulled back into the frizziest of buns, a baby on your hip, spit up down your arm. Until he can come home to you–you with no makeup–and express there is nothing as wonderful as seeing your face, it is not true passion.

You are touched by his love, and whisper tonight you will return the favor. Tonight there is a crying baby and a feverish toddler who just joined you in bed. Until he can laugh, fully laugh about this, it is not true passion.

Can a man like this exist? Yes, dear girl, and you call him your dad. He has shown me what true love is.

The hormones have faded. I am not pregnant. I am not nursing. My own passion has returned. Can I truly say “returned?” I really had no idea what passion was. So intense, so raw, I cannot put it fully into words.

I am not in love with just another man. I am in love with the father of my babies. The one who called me beautiful through nights of ugly, called me strong through days of weak, called me valuable through days of uncertainty. The one who waited patiently for me. Who washed the sheets of vomit as I bathed the fever infested child.

This is love dear girl. This is passion. It is being one with he who is going to be there for you, till death do you part, regardless. It is something mystical and unexplainable. It is something crazy. It is crazy hot sex.

Wait dear girl. Wait for him. There is nothing so beautiful as finding your heart in his, the one who will wait for you–even after marriage.

Love,

Mom

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433 thoughts on “Crazy Hot Sex”

  1. I have read this twice and balled twice reading it. once for my husband and once for my daughter. My kids are 14 and 17. My husband has been with me through thick and thicker. I am now disabled and feel this is the time he has sacrificed most. Hooray for husbands who deserve the monniker. Good job with the post. So proud for you.

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  4. Says this MAN….every word here is true….. I hope with all of my being, that my daughter finds this passion sooner rather then later in her life…..and that my son, finds a woman he can be this passionate about sooner rather then later as well…..
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  8. Reblogged this on Dash of Proverbs 31 and commented:
    This is such a well written letter from a mom to her daughter. May my own daughter come to learn this through my own husband and my marriage.
    Days may be rough, our passion not as it was before children. But our love so much deeper because of our children.
    Don’t forget to express your love (men) to your tired exhausted wife tonight.
    Woman, don’t ignore your husband. He’s always there for you!

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    1. How I LOVE to hear this–35 years!!! Yours defies the “statistics” I have been told will soon end our passion in divorce. Thank you for the encouragement that it can in fact remain only strong through the years!

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  11. As a young mother, I struggled with this since I was 17. My husband and I have since had another daughter and this is a GREAT reminder of the value of a relationship within parenthood. In a world that is only concerned with surface value, I am reminded of the beauty that my husband and I have been through. There is so much depth in loving someone through these life changes. I shared this with him as a “thank you for loving me” kinda thing. Thank you for writting this. I hope to share this knowledge with my daughters in the future.

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  15. I have to say, I’m a 20 year old turning 21 on December 19th college student, and there is such a pressure on not only college students but also on college women to be sexually active and explore our bodies, and when I tell them that I’m saving myself for marriage, you wouldn’t beliece the looks I get. I want to save myself for a man who will not only love me for all I am just like I would him, but also find me sexy and beautiful years down the years after we have a few babies (I plan on having 5; more if it’s in god’s plans for me to do so). Thanks for ensuring me I’m making the right choice, this article left me all warm inside 🙂

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    2. Way to go Victoria!! I honestly believe saving yourself is one thing you will NEVER regret! The thought of 5 babies makes me want to swoon, but more power to you girl! 😉 😉 🙂

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    3. I’ll be praying strength and encouragement for you! I so wish I would have saved myself for my husband. I believed the lies of needing to explore and sow your wild oats before settling down etc etc and it truly left scars that I’ve had to heal as a married woman. Hold your head high, Victoria!

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  18. I am a 52 year old mom of two teens girls. I read this and cried. Then I shared it on my fb page so my 18 year old would read this. It is so true and so beautiful! This is not what society tells our girls. It tells our girls to show off their bodies and to have fun with boys. Thank you so much for writing this and sharing.

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  19. This was absolutely beautiful and you put perfectly into words something I have been struggling to find the words for, to teach my own Children. I had an extremely severe bout of PPD after our last baby. My Husband was, imo, the most amazing man in the universe. He never had a harsh word, always supported me, always encouraged me. He was the one who lent me his strength to crawl out of the dark place I had suddenly found myself in. In many ways, it brought us so much closer, on so many levels. These are the qualities we should teach our children to look for in their mates, as well as something they should work on in themselves. I’m very happy I found your blog post, keep up the good work.

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  22. And never forget to value each other day in, day out.
    Please and thank you and I love you are words you do not take for granted. Never go to bed angry, never sleep on the couch, that is a soul crusher.
    Thank the Good Lord each time you hear each others footsteps arriving. In his goodness he has honour you love with another day together.
    For some of us,” til death do us part”‘ comes too early. Never leave words unsaid. If part you must, and it is my sincere hope you do not, Never think, if only, or I wish I had…. true love means sharing one to another, And when you fall in love, it is the most joyous time of you life, pukey kids, swollen legs,and counting pennies and all.

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  23. Thank you for sharing 😊
    I always believed God had a man for me and I saved myself for him. 2 daughters and 28 years later he has proven time and time again that waiting for him was the best decision I ever made. Sometimes I just don’t feel loveable but he loves me anyway! He is always there; the anchor in my life! That is, to me, Crazy Hot Sex!

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  26. Reblogged this on A Momma's View and commented:
    Oh my! How beautiful is this!!! Could have not put it in better words. What an amazing and strong post. So much love for the husband and the daughter! And I agree! I agree 100%! I will print this post and hand Otto my baby girl one day!

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  27. Such a lovely read! I am a first-time mom of a beautiful 4 month old and keep fighting tears every time I try to fit into my pre-preg clothes.. Every evening when my hubby comes home and says I look gorgeous, I just smile and thank him for being kind..
    This post makes me feel so wonderful for sharing life with the most amazing man and love him even more. Thanks!

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  29. Love. It’s tough to describe but we know it in the moments we feel it, being told there’s nothing more wonderful than seeing our faces..Just us and not seeing the spit or the frizzy hair or the bags under our eyes.

    Sasha, I can only echo what everyone else is saying, this was a timely reminder on celebrating each other, reconnecting and recalling the love between the 2 people that created the family in the first place. Love this post x

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  32. Preach it mama!!

    Sex is never more hot than after you go through the crazy… beautiful… refining trenches of young motherhood. Some nights I look over at Moderate Daddy and I can’t believe he stayed… not that I thought he’d leave but you know what I mean. He is here, not just physically, but emotionally… spiritually!

    He is the kind of man… THE MAN… I want to get crazy with in bed 😉

    Thanks to all you wonderful husbands whose acts of love and patience have given us wives a earthly example of true… wild… forever love!!!

    So glad to have found your blog and I look forward to becoming friends!! (if you want to 😉 )

    *sharing this wonderful message on my FB!!

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      1. I seriously love that you praise hot sex… I think it needs to be talked about more and encouraged more often. I want to be the 50 year old woman at church who proudly shares how truly wonderful sex is and what a gift it is from our Creator!!

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  38. With these hands, a poem that expresses these sentiments and is congruent with true and lasting love, well written and expressed from the heart.

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  43. The best living example I have seen (apart from my own parents of course) is my granddad. He turns 100 this December and my grandma is 87. They have been married for 70 years now and stuck to each other through thick and thin. Now 4 daughters, 7 grandchildren and 8 great grandchildren later I can still see the snow white haired man give the cutest toothless smile with a sparkle in his eyes when we ask him to tell stories about their marriage! It is just the best!

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      1. Shared with all my Facebook friends, tells you how much i liked it 🙂 sometimes one needs those awesome reminders of how blessed we are 🙂

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  50. This is so beautiful. I shared this on quora citing thos blog. I hope you don’t mind. I’m curious. Is this your real mom and dad’s story or is it someone else’s? Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

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