My daughter and I were having a late lunch. It had been a long night and busy morning, my son was already asleep, and without even realizing it I had zoned out. Twenty minutes later I found myself suddenly snapping back. I looked over and saw my sweet girl happily sitting next to me, using the salt and pepper shakers as her “mommy and daddy.”
My kids are so close in age I do not have one on ones all too often with them. When I do, I try to make them extra special and bonding. This time, however, I had completely ignored my daughter for the entire lunch.
I caught her eye, “I love you so much, Boston.”
She smiled back, “Ya, I know mom.”
I gazed at her little frame, perfectly content. She didn’t care that we weren’t doing anything, saying anything. I was right there with her, and this was enough. My presence was enough.
As moms we often try to “do” so much with our kids. We want them to be educated, confident, prepared. We go, go, go with every new article of parenting advice. We want mother of the year. Not for bragging rights, but to truly know we did all we were supposed to for them. We wish to give them the world…
I sit folding the laundry, and watch as they bring their toys over to be right next to the pile. I make my way over to the bedroom and those toys immediately follow suit. I transition over to the kitchen and laugh as I see two little ones still on my heels.
When it really comes down to it all, to them it is not so much about the doing as the simple being—being right there, with you.
You, with all your flaws and failures; shortcomings and mistakes. You, with no makeup and a little extra padding around the skin. You, who lost your patience with them earlier and burned the toast while you were at it. You, who made one too many mistakes to ever come close to that mother of the year…
When they look at your flawed self, all they see is love. And this is everything they need.
They want you, momma. Not because of what you can do, but simply because you are you.
It doesn’t always have to be Disney World. In fact, I think their little hearts find just as much joy playing “Mickey Mouse” at home, as long as it means playing it by your side.
Doing is good, really good. Keep on doing all the wonderful things of life with them. Show them the world and all its beauty. But more than the doing, just be. Be you, with them…
How they love to be with you.